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Over A Decade Making Porn! Why Am I Still Working In The Adult Industry 11 Years Later?
I recently celebrated eleven years as a performer and creator in the adult industry, and I can hardly believe it myself. This blog is not to encourage anyone into joining the adult industry, but to share my personal experiences working in adult content.
As I relaxed in my cute cozy apartment, accompanied by my two large old cats, I reflected on all the time that had past. So much had happened. Some things changed, while others remained the same. All in all, it felt like it had gone by so fast. I began my career in the adult industry as a cam model on myfreecams before pivoting and focusing on independent porn creation. But even back when I started, I knew I had found something special. The variety. The flexibility. Starting out I thought ‘I can never get bored doing this!’ For the most part, young model me was right. I’ve learned a lot through my work and still do every day.
How My Career In Amateur Porn Began
Everything started with the light on a webcam. Starting off felt slow. I was still in college earning my communication degree and living with a bunch of roommates. It made finding the time and privacy to cam incredibly difficult to say the least. Once I got my feet wet, and got the hang of dancing naked on the internet, my whole life started to change. I went from an exhausted college student on food stamps, to an energized creative cam model. I had more freedom, more money and most importantly, more time.
It wasn’t long before I started traveling in search of others in my field. I was able to fly across the country to meet and work with other models and attend huge adult conventions and meet ups. I had found a wild wonderful world in which I fit right in. No longer was I the naked roommate, but a jet setting internet stripper! Dancing and attracting eyes from around the world filled me with excitement. Performing for 100s of people at a time. What a rush!
A few years in I began creating my own porn videos to sell, which I started liking even more than streaming. Making adult videos is the majority of my work now, but I still look back on my early days as a cam model and smile.
The Top 3 Reasons I Still Love Making Adult Content
Even with the threats to the adult industry as a whole, the fierce competition, and the stigma the job holds, why am I still in love with making porn for a living?
One of the first benefits I gained being an adult content creator was the independence. I have the freedom to live my own life exactly how I want to live it. That’s everything to me. I’m able to curate a lifestyle most aligned with my goals and future plans. Of course the money has made the independence possible, but it’s also about the control of scheduling, being able to work from home, as well as the feeling you can only get from working for yourself. I fell in love with all of those things while camming and filming.
Working in the adult industry has also inspired my creative sexual energy. I’ve always been fascinated with both art and sex and my work is where both of those passions can collide beautifully. I completely understand why not everyone could do what I do. It requires a sexual openness and curiosity that not everyone has, and that’s ok.
I think some people would even accuse me of ‘glamorizing’ my job. I’m not saying there aren’t downsides. Like all industries, adult work can chew people up and spit them out. For me though, the adult space I work in gives me room to stretch out and be purely me. Creative sexual energy and all. In a world where we all have to work to survive, I’d much rather have a job that I can connect with and enjoy. If you want to know more about how porn inspires me creatively, check out my blog about the versatility of JOI to see how I explore my favorite porn genre on a deeper level.
This last reason could be a bit controversial. There’s no doubt that porn has a cultural Impact on our society, but I would argue that that’s a good thing. While my work is still work, and I do my job to put food on the table, I still get to make a contribution to the culture around me. That’s not possible in every job.
Through creating porn I get to make content that promotes self care and relaxation, joy and sexual acceptance, and just really great orgasms. Call my crazy, but I think that makes the world a little lovelier to live in. I love what I do. I also value how it impacts our society as a whole, despite what anti-porn advocates may believe.
What Have I Learned From Selling Porn For A Living?
Stay true to your boundaries and beliefs. Don’t be afraid to be alone. Take more pictures to remember it all by.
I also would have treated it like a business earlier on. Chances are, no one taught you how to work for yourself in school. While I got good grades and was considered a smart student, I only made it through school because of fierce self determination. I struggled to understand the material during class and would have to focus on it by myself before learning it properly. Years later I would get diagnosed with ADHD and all the struggling in school suddenly made sense.
However, I think that self teaching way of thinking and doing things set me on a good path when I found myself responsible for my own schedule, content, performances, everything. Don’t get me wrong. It took me a long time to feel comfortable and productive with my work, but it never would have happened if I wasn’t confident I could teach myself anything and everything I needed to keep getting better.
If I Could Go Back, Would I Do It All Again?
If I knew what I knew now? I’d do it all again but better. I’d have way more confidence for one. Not just in my appearance, but in my creativity and ideas. I think too often I would assume that other people knew more then me, or knew better. But most of the time you need to do what’s best for yourself. That includes being confident in your own choices and standing by them.
It be nice to go back in time and tell my younger self ‘Fuck imposter syndrome’ because I think that holds a lot of people back from going all in on their passions. I belong and feel at home in the adult industry. It’s where my artistry and sexual creativity flourish. It’s been eleven years, and I still can’t think of anything else I would rather be doing.
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She’s a Natural at Loser Humiliation
If you’re good at something, never do it for free
Heath Ledger as The Joker in the ‘The Dark Knight’I’d been filming videos for years before I tried making fun of losers in front of a camera. I dabbled in fetish and femdom content sure, but the glass slipper didn’t truly fit until I tried out loser humiliation for the first time. Hi, I’m Lux Neon also known as TemptressLux, and I love laughing at losers. Harsh! What a BITCH! People who’ve never heard of this fetish sometimes have a negative knee-jerk reaction to it. Clearly, I must be taking advantage of weak individuals and bullying them into even lower self-esteem. Shouldn’t I be helping them instead of feeding into it? The reason I excel at this genre though is because I understand why it’s hot, why it gets people off, and why I personally fit so well as the brat girl of fantasies. Under the umbrella of humiliation, loser and virgin loser humiliation is a niche all their own.
Why do people get off to Loser Humiliation?
Beats me. No really. I’m not going to sit here and declare that I know exactly where this branch of humiliation fetish comes from and how it forms in each individual. We’re all different for one. I’m also not a psychologist or an expert in fetish origins. With that said, I’m happy to share my thoughts on where this fetish ‘could’ sometimes come from.
It’s not difficult to see how people who consider themselves actual losers would enjoy my videos. There’s plenty of hatred out there for people who can’t reach the rigorous standards and expectations from family, friends, bosses, and society at large. But while I’m sure there are plenty of ‘genuine’ losers consuming this content, I also know there are people who love it regardless of their social status.
Not all Losers
We all have insecurities in life. We face problems every day that we must overcome. The expectations and pressure can get overwhelming at times. Failure is almost more taboo a conversation topic than porn. We often do anything to avoid the vulnerability and shame of failure. Whether it be a career, familial expectations, or personal demons. Even the most successful people who you’d never guess would lack confidence, can have that nagging voice of doubt. What if you fail? What if you keep failing? What if you fail and everyone thinks you’re a loser? Here we have a common fetish origin theory. The idea that we sometimes sexualize what we fear. Sexualizing something that’s uncomfortable for us is one way human beings deal. Someone who is into loser videos isn’t necessarily a ‘loser’ in real life. Instead of telling someone they’re not a loser, I tell them it’s OK if they are. And that in fact, that’s exactly what I want them to be.
It’s not often we’re told it’s alright to lose. It’s ok to fail. Mix that with a hot bratty bossy girl who gets you horny being the one to give you that permission and we have the recipe for a perfect fetish video. Men in particular deal with sexual rejection at a higher rate than women simply because they’re usually the ones to make the first move. Sexualizing that experience and the fear of being a loser can help people release some of the power attached to those things. I challenge that not only do loser humiliation videos not hurt most people, they actually might help more than you’d think.
It’s not that deep
“You’re looking way too much into this. Guys just get off on dominant women!” That’s also a fair assessment. Sometimes it’s not that deep and they’re no big underlying reason we get off on what we do. But I like to understand my work, especially in fetish, from all angles. I think the biggest take away is that there’s no harm in thinking deeper into fetishes. If I made loser humiliation videos with the only idea being ‘be mean, treat him like shit’ I’d still make sellable content, but I don’t think I’d be creating what my fans love me for. Maybe I go overboard but I think that helps me stand out. When I go to film a humiliation video like this I keep in mind where I envision it coming from. I like imagining I’m helping someone get through their day. We all need some extra validation now and then, and not just about our accomplishments.
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Cam Models Age?
Everyone says “you can’t do this forever” when it comes to the adult industry, but is that true?
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While all genders work in the sex industry I will be centering women in this article because that’s the experience I can speak to. Though I think everyone in front of the camera has thought about the effects of that all-important factor we can’t control. Aging.
“How it started, how it’s going” showing a picture of Lux Neon from 2014 then in 2020 There are a lot of stereotypes and stigma sexy workers have to face on a daily basis. If they’re open about their work, even with just close friends, chances are the question of ‘aging out’ has come up. Sex work is considered inherently temporary. There aren’t many jobs where you automatically ask what the person is going to do after it as if there were an invisible countdown ticking above my tits. When people ask me about it I usually point out how no one knows if they’ll be doing the same job in ten years.
Civilians don’t think of this as a career. I’ve been in the adult industry since 2013 and have had the same job longer than most of my millennial peers. Still, I’m always asked what I’m going to do after. Some people will even go so far as to point out my beauty will fade. However will make money then?! These same people seem to think there aren’t any porn actresses over 25. The top porn actor in the world right now Angela White, is 35.
The temptation to lie about your Age
The stereotype of there only being young people in porn gets reinforced again and again. The pressure to adhere to these strict imaginary sexual guidelines can move a lot of workers to lie about their age. Someone may stay 22 forever or not list their age at all. Others who don’t start right at 18 sign up and trim a few years off their birthdays in an effort to compete. There’s a not so unspoken demand for ‘teens’ and young 20s in porn. Youth is highly prized in U.S culture.
Going further the pressure to look the part looms overhead of many sexy workers. Plastic surgery, fillers and botox. Diets and gym memberships. Thousands of dollars on skin treatments and beauty products. Encouraging age insecurity is big business to some. For those in the adult industry, it’s yet another strain to deal with.
The idea of aging out of sexuality is puritan and prude
I think especially in the U.S we’re raised to believe that you become old at thirty years old. You’re supposed to have everything figured out by then. You’re supposed to disappear from public life to start a home. Perfect heterosexual monogamous relationship with 2.5 kids and a million-dollar mortgage right? Live the dream or suffer the ridicule and judgment around and above you. This spreads to the idea of how long we’re allowed to remain sexual beings in the public eye. Keep the emphasis on the YOUNG, dumb, and full of cum trope. Certain authorities don’t want to imagine someone owning and displaying their sexuality past a certain age. They won’t want to grasp the idea of being paid for it on top of that.
If you engage with the adult entertainment world even on a casual level you can see that this stereotype isn’t reflected in the real world. Look around and you can see sex workers have proven they can continue to work in their 30s, 40s, and beyond. Not surprisingly, the workers with more years under their heel are usually making more money than when they were younger. After all, we get better at our jobs over time. It also goes to show you don’t have to start right at 18 to be a success. In actuality, life experience and outside skills can crossover into making someone even more popular. There’s no right or wrong way to go about it.
My personal journey with aging
I’d be lying if I said I didn’t use to be scared of aging. Though I tried pretending I’d be young forever and magically not wrinkle. It’s hard to ignore everyone telling you you won’t be beautiful once you reach a certain age. As if being lucky enough to live long only rewarded you with sexless bingo nights and no one finding you attractive ever again. I don’t know what it is about being a millennial but it’s like no one thought life went past thirty. So I did what any other functioning adult would do. I tried not to think about it. I felt unstoppable in my twenties. Feeling like I’d be young forever despite the birthdays piling up.
I started looking in the mirror and seeing smile lines. People didn’t automatically assume I was 18 anymore. I’d go to cam model events and be surrounded by women just getting out of high school or college. I started questioning whether there really was a limit? I needed only to look ahead, at beautiful successful peers who had a few or a lot of years on me. Thriving. There were already plenty of women showing me it was possible to go for as long as I wanted.
The thing is is that age wasn’t something I was insecure about naturally. But people berated me and reminded me constantly how much it was tied to my worth as a woman and as a sexual being. I think the rejection of ‘aging out’ that sex workers stand with contributes to the rage of those who wish we’d simply disappear. Sex workers have already been pushed to the outskirts of society again and again. Since when do they follow the status quo? Women aren’t sexy past a certain age? I don’t think so. Aging out is the real myth.
